I am seven weeks into the power of a praying wife book. I LOVE it! Really, I do. This book is amazing. I'm also enjoying the time in the Word.
This week's chapter is on "HIS MIND". I'm not sure what you're husbands are like, but mine believes he can only do what he already knows. Nothing more. Simple as that. No, it's not a "can't teach an old dog new tricks" kind of mantra, he was never believed in as a child. Sure his parents were encouraging and supportive, but never allowed him to step out of his comfort zone and spread his own wings. He only rode on the coat-tails of his parents. What they did, he did....and so on. I'm sure he's not the only child to have been raised this way, we parents tend to stick with what we know. HOWEVER, you could have been a child like me and did it anyway. No, when I was a child I was NOT rebellious. (that's also not sarcasm either) Really, I wasn't. I wanted nothing more but to please my mother. Rarely happened. I kept trying. The result was strength, empowerment, and knowledge to know I could go on without her. Now that I'm an adult, I don't want to go on without her. I'm sure now, she would be able to learn a bit from me: YES marriages can work. YES you can raise children who love you AND listen to you. YES, God loves YOU all the time.
Ah, off the rabbit trail and back to the topic: Dan's Mind. It's definitely a battlefield in there. Until this morning I really believed it to be a boring place, his mind. Why? Regardless of my level of submission in our household, the decisions still ultimately fall into my lap. They're like stray kittens you accidentially fed once...they keep coming back. I don't want them. Thankfully, God is indeed dealing in that area.
Now, (well, sometimes) when I ask why Dan made a particular decision about something, he realizes I just want to know how he came to that conclusion. Did he use God? Himself? Someone else's path? I'm only asking to get to know my husband a bit more. I have no alterior motives. Anything I can do to wriggle myself into knowing him more is all the better for me.
I love him. If I'm able to understand his thought process a bit more each time, I don't have to ask HOW he came to a particular decision. Eventually, I will know he asked God.
Simple as that.
Someday.
one good thing my husband did: Bathed the kids so I could make us a late dinner
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Monday, June 28, 2010
Old Yeller No More
I've learned over the past few days just how difficult it is getting to be a yeller.
A Yeller? Yes. If you know me personally, you know I've always been quick to anger. I get it from my mother, who got it from her mother, I didn't know her mother so who knows where it started. I will be quite frank, the day before my period starts, Dan and I fight. This month it was a little different. Our fight was an argument and no one was outright mean. MAJOR accomplishment!!
I also pointed out it was near the end of the month and he backed off immediately. He took a need into consideration. MAJOR accomplishment! Another important aspect I've noticed is how seemingly difficult it is for me to yell. Oh I can still do it all right. No doubt about that. This time I noticed the bridle on the tongue David asked for from the Lord. This time I can hear the Lord telling me to stay quiet. In the past, I could kind of hear the Lord but I definitely ignored him. Practically saying, "Hold on God, just let me get this last piece out!" So I did. Nothing is rewarding when you ignore the words of the Lord. Nothing. Dan and I are both noticing how okay it is to have a disagreement, and how not okay it is to have an outright blowout. God is also showing both of us how to deal with it and share with each other in different ways frustrations, disagreements and needs.
"Set a watch, O LORD, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips." (NKJV Psalm 141:3)
I really, really, REALLY never thought I would see the day where using my words as fierce weapons would get difficult. It did. There's only GOD to thank for that one. It is Him doing a great work in ME for His good pleasure.
"For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure" (philippians 2:13 KJV)
ONE GOOD THING DAN DID YESTERDAY: HAD A WATER BATTLE WITH ALL THE KIDS OUTSIDE. I hope it helps him to build his relationship with them ;)
A Yeller? Yes. If you know me personally, you know I've always been quick to anger. I get it from my mother, who got it from her mother, I didn't know her mother so who knows where it started. I will be quite frank, the day before my period starts, Dan and I fight. This month it was a little different. Our fight was an argument and no one was outright mean. MAJOR accomplishment!!
I also pointed out it was near the end of the month and he backed off immediately. He took a need into consideration. MAJOR accomplishment! Another important aspect I've noticed is how seemingly difficult it is for me to yell. Oh I can still do it all right. No doubt about that. This time I noticed the bridle on the tongue David asked for from the Lord. This time I can hear the Lord telling me to stay quiet. In the past, I could kind of hear the Lord but I definitely ignored him. Practically saying, "Hold on God, just let me get this last piece out!" So I did. Nothing is rewarding when you ignore the words of the Lord. Nothing. Dan and I are both noticing how okay it is to have a disagreement, and how not okay it is to have an outright blowout. God is also showing both of us how to deal with it and share with each other in different ways frustrations, disagreements and needs.
"Set a watch, O LORD, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips." (NKJV Psalm 141:3)
I really, really, REALLY never thought I would see the day where using my words as fierce weapons would get difficult. It did. There's only GOD to thank for that one. It is Him doing a great work in ME for His good pleasure.
"For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure" (philippians 2:13 KJV)
ONE GOOD THING DAN DID YESTERDAY: HAD A WATER BATTLE WITH ALL THE KIDS OUTSIDE. I hope it helps him to build his relationship with them ;)
Monday, June 14, 2010
If My Heart Could Write
It would have written the exact prayer at the end of the first chapter in Praying Wife.
Most definitely written by a woman scarred from marriage. Except that wasn't the Lord's plan for us wives...to come together and share our scars from marriage. His plan is for us to teach each other how to make marriage work successfully...happily...joyfully...in harmony.
Can it happen? I wholeheartedly believe it can, it has already begin in our marriage.
The prayer started out like many other written-book-prayers. Believing in the words, lacking the emotion of reality. The end; however, a lump had grown in my throat and upon swallowing, the tears began. Not of saddness of the state of our marriage, our marriage is nothing to be sad about. I was rejoicing. How wonderful it is to know the very first chapter in this book was exactly what the Lord had already begun working in me.
The reality of the prayer and how it can transform one's marriage is amazing. The words spoke direcly to my heart:
"...overlooking each other's faults and weakeness for the greater good of the marriage." (p.45) How often I have picked apart the things that irritate me about my husband, longing for the days when everything he did was cute. Returning to that life is easier than I thought. Just don't say anything. Yes, initially it's difficult...he knows I'm working on it and thankfully he appreciates my efforts. We'll just smile and eventually it leads to laughter. God is tranforming us. Certainly me complaining to my husband wasn't a help, laying my issues at the cross of Christ helps. Immensely.
I would like to devote today in reflection of the prayers I had written in the book.
Tomorrow, I start a new chapter in the book. HIS WORK. While I respect my husband for working, while he's not a workaholic, while he's not a lazy man, we still need help in this arena and how to deal with the demands of his job...together, as one.
Most definitely written by a woman scarred from marriage. Except that wasn't the Lord's plan for us wives...to come together and share our scars from marriage. His plan is for us to teach each other how to make marriage work successfully...happily...joyfully...in harmony.
Can it happen? I wholeheartedly believe it can, it has already begin in our marriage.
The prayer started out like many other written-book-prayers. Believing in the words, lacking the emotion of reality. The end; however, a lump had grown in my throat and upon swallowing, the tears began. Not of saddness of the state of our marriage, our marriage is nothing to be sad about. I was rejoicing. How wonderful it is to know the very first chapter in this book was exactly what the Lord had already begun working in me.
The reality of the prayer and how it can transform one's marriage is amazing. The words spoke direcly to my heart:
"...overlooking each other's faults and weakeness for the greater good of the marriage." (p.45) How often I have picked apart the things that irritate me about my husband, longing for the days when everything he did was cute. Returning to that life is easier than I thought. Just don't say anything. Yes, initially it's difficult...he knows I'm working on it and thankfully he appreciates my efforts. We'll just smile and eventually it leads to laughter. God is tranforming us. Certainly me complaining to my husband wasn't a help, laying my issues at the cross of Christ helps. Immensely.
I would like to devote today in reflection of the prayers I had written in the book.
Tomorrow, I start a new chapter in the book. HIS WORK. While I respect my husband for working, while he's not a workaholic, while he's not a lazy man, we still need help in this arena and how to deal with the demands of his job...together, as one.
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Assessing our Needs
This morning I began the workbook section of the study. I'm really going to like this.
I will continue with that I highlighted in chapter one yesterday. Between discussing what I have marked accompanied by the questions in the workbook, my thought process in my marriage is going to be transformed!
But how do we get past the unforgiveness and critical attitude?
I can't imagine someone having a more critical attitude than I do. I know someone is out there...but I needn't find them. I need to change mine. I desire to be the former owner of a critcal attitude. God is already working in me. When I want to be critical, I can hear the wonderful whisper of our Father guiding me in the right direction. Do I always choose the right path? NO. But God knows our hearts and he knows where my heart wants to go. Each time it gets a little easier. Satan knows my weakspots and I've allowed him to nest in there thinking it's okay because I'm doing it all in the name of love. Wrong again.
There is a time to speak and a time to remail silent.
Silent? How in earth is my husband going to change if I don't tell him how do it? Happy is the man whose wife can discern between the two. Again, what a learning experience! I have taken these concerns to my Father. Yes, he's not working on Dan...it's ME. I always knew I could use some changing; however, I really knew my husband could benefit from his own changing as well.
But hard as it may seem, it's best to let God hear them first so He can temper them with his Spirit.
This works!. Yes, I am aware I have ignored this advice more than utilized it. Again, I'm learning! It's amazing how our own angry tune changes if we tell God what we'd like to tell our spouses. I feel guitly just telling God in the first place, often, even as the words are flowing out of my mouth, anger subsides. I've found this is even more effective if you actually speak out loud to God in these circumstances. THEN when God has guided you, return to your husband.
We'll close for today. I'm so thankful for this book. Maybe, just maybe I'll be able to successfully complete a DP study once this study is done. Surely it won't seem so radical after God has done a bit of work preparing me for DP.
I will continue with that I highlighted in chapter one yesterday. Between discussing what I have marked accompanied by the questions in the workbook, my thought process in my marriage is going to be transformed!
But how do we get past the unforgiveness and critical attitude?
I can't imagine someone having a more critical attitude than I do. I know someone is out there...but I needn't find them. I need to change mine. I desire to be the former owner of a critcal attitude. God is already working in me. When I want to be critical, I can hear the wonderful whisper of our Father guiding me in the right direction. Do I always choose the right path? NO. But God knows our hearts and he knows where my heart wants to go. Each time it gets a little easier. Satan knows my weakspots and I've allowed him to nest in there thinking it's okay because I'm doing it all in the name of love. Wrong again.
There is a time to speak and a time to remail silent.
Silent? How in earth is my husband going to change if I don't tell him how do it? Happy is the man whose wife can discern between the two. Again, what a learning experience! I have taken these concerns to my Father. Yes, he's not working on Dan...it's ME. I always knew I could use some changing; however, I really knew my husband could benefit from his own changing as well.
But hard as it may seem, it's best to let God hear them first so He can temper them with his Spirit.
This works!. Yes, I am aware I have ignored this advice more than utilized it. Again, I'm learning! It's amazing how our own angry tune changes if we tell God what we'd like to tell our spouses. I feel guitly just telling God in the first place, often, even as the words are flowing out of my mouth, anger subsides. I've found this is even more effective if you actually speak out loud to God in these circumstances. THEN when God has guided you, return to your husband.
We'll close for today. I'm so thankful for this book. Maybe, just maybe I'll be able to successfully complete a DP study once this study is done. Surely it won't seem so radical after God has done a bit of work preparing me for DP.
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
Catching Up
It has been quite some time since my last post. Please know I hadn't forgotten of this blog nor the blogject. It has always been in my heart. So much progress has been made in our family it is unbelieveable.
In November, God called Dan and I to adopt a child from Eastern Europe. We knew the process as a whole would not only take a great toll on our marriage, but build it as well. And the building has far surpassed any hardships we have encountered.
We are learning about each other, praying more, growing closer with the Lord and beginning (finally!) to be Godly examples for our children. We are aware of how we want them to be when they grow up and marry. Forcing us to be better examples, even when we don't want to.
This morning, after having the book set for a while, I began reading The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian. EXCELLENT! I believe, what I am going to do...not only to stay strong in the study, but to create accountability for myself, each day (I'm going to TRY!) to post the parts I highlighted in the chapter for the week. Each week is one chapter. I read the chapter today. I highlighted many key points I know I need to work on...whether I want to or not. God wants me to. My husband wants me to. I want me to. My future daughters in law will be glad I did.
The most effective tool in a transforming him may be your own transformation.
Wow. Really? Yes, it's true. Even since the beginning of this blogject the more *I* began to change, the more my husband began to change. Though it's also easy to slip right back into where you were. Never think you have this part beat. Believe me, the second that arrogant thought enters your mind, prepare for battle.
Submission is something you give from your heart, not something demanded of you.
My husband has never not even once demanded I sumbit. Yes, snide remarks have been made. Rarely. But only recently when he knew submission was something I was working on and we were arguing. It was his ammunition. Okay. I guess it has been a slight more more than never. I'm not complaining, that's for sure. I want to respect and submit to my husband as the head of our household. I won't lie, the majority of the time I don't. But I want to. And I will. It's an exciting journey, and I love adventures!!
How can I pray for you?
It will not be a surprise to you that most men lack in the communication department. *Gasp!* BUT it may surprise you that when asked that very question, they have been known to provide detailed answers! I believe, in my attemps at asking Dan that very question, he has been forced to search motives and feelings. It also helps him to learn a little more about himself he hadn't thought about. Something I get to be the beneficiary of! Thank you Jesus!! Being on the recieving end of my husband realizing something about himself I had known all along is a wonderful present.
Dying to yourself is always painful.
Everyday. Everyday we need to die to ourselves. How easy it is to be caught up in our own lives. How desperately many wives have longed for their husbands to put them first. To bring home flowers, whether the literal or figurative sense daily. To be told we are loved, sought after, thought about...a deep desire of many. I know it has been one of mine and still is. I'm reminded each day I need to die to myself putting the needs of my husband first. God will take care of me.
Welcome to a new journey, each day I'll have a few more tidbits of what I'm learning, realizing, implementing and praying about.
In November, God called Dan and I to adopt a child from Eastern Europe. We knew the process as a whole would not only take a great toll on our marriage, but build it as well. And the building has far surpassed any hardships we have encountered.
We are learning about each other, praying more, growing closer with the Lord and beginning (finally!) to be Godly examples for our children. We are aware of how we want them to be when they grow up and marry. Forcing us to be better examples, even when we don't want to.
This morning, after having the book set for a while, I began reading The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian. EXCELLENT! I believe, what I am going to do...not only to stay strong in the study, but to create accountability for myself, each day (I'm going to TRY!) to post the parts I highlighted in the chapter for the week. Each week is one chapter. I read the chapter today. I highlighted many key points I know I need to work on...whether I want to or not. God wants me to. My husband wants me to. I want me to. My future daughters in law will be glad I did.
The most effective tool in a transforming him may be your own transformation.
Wow. Really? Yes, it's true. Even since the beginning of this blogject the more *I* began to change, the more my husband began to change. Though it's also easy to slip right back into where you were. Never think you have this part beat. Believe me, the second that arrogant thought enters your mind, prepare for battle.
Submission is something you give from your heart, not something demanded of you.
My husband has never not even once demanded I sumbit. Yes, snide remarks have been made. Rarely. But only recently when he knew submission was something I was working on and we were arguing. It was his ammunition. Okay. I guess it has been a slight more more than never. I'm not complaining, that's for sure. I want to respect and submit to my husband as the head of our household. I won't lie, the majority of the time I don't. But I want to. And I will. It's an exciting journey, and I love adventures!!
How can I pray for you?
It will not be a surprise to you that most men lack in the communication department. *Gasp!* BUT it may surprise you that when asked that very question, they have been known to provide detailed answers! I believe, in my attemps at asking Dan that very question, he has been forced to search motives and feelings. It also helps him to learn a little more about himself he hadn't thought about. Something I get to be the beneficiary of! Thank you Jesus!! Being on the recieving end of my husband realizing something about himself I had known all along is a wonderful present.
Dying to yourself is always painful.
Everyday. Everyday we need to die to ourselves. How easy it is to be caught up in our own lives. How desperately many wives have longed for their husbands to put them first. To bring home flowers, whether the literal or figurative sense daily. To be told we are loved, sought after, thought about...a deep desire of many. I know it has been one of mine and still is. I'm reminded each day I need to die to myself putting the needs of my husband first. God will take care of me.
Welcome to a new journey, each day I'll have a few more tidbits of what I'm learning, realizing, implementing and praying about.
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
We Had No Idea...
Up until a few months ago, my husband and I would get caught up believing we had very little in common. Asking why we were even married in the first place. We blamed it on the beer. Life was always more fun with beer. We didn't have a clear head, we thought life would continue to be fun with money flowing in all the time. Boy, we were ever wrong!
Sure, we don't have the same hobbies. We have even tried forcing ourselves into liking a hobby or two of the other's thinking we could learn to like it therefore, giving us more in common. The only thing we ended up with was commonly thinking, yet again, "Why did we even get married?" The answer is simple. We compliment each other, God knew our unity would create something beautiful. More than our 3 (almost 4!) beautiful children.
It eventually came down to the love we had for each other, we wanted to share with our children. Our common ground. Instead of forcing separate hobbies on each other, God has cultivated new hobbies into our hearts.
Over the past few months, we have learned we love to pray together in the mornings. We have decided to wake up much earlier in the mornings to have time together in prayer and studying God's word. What better way to start our days?
Ephesians 6:7 "...with goodwill doing service, as to the Lord, and not to men." (NKJV) Originally, I found this verse a while back, wrote it on an index card and gave it to my husband. A helpful reminder to work diligently as his paying job. Moaning and grumbling at his employer was not the answer. This verse has been beautifully orchestrated into our lives. We have learned our work is 24/7. Not just the place where he receives his paycheck. I too, was reminded my work at home, both housework as well as with the children held the same requirement of the Lord. Once I realized and implemented, both mine and my husband's hearts felt lighter and softened.
Matthew 11:30 "For my yolk is easy and my burden is light." (NKJV)
Both my husband and I knew, from the moment our first son was born, we wanted him to grow in God's love. We simply didn't know how we would help that along. Years have passed, two more children added to the mix and one on the way, we are finally seeing the obvious.
Our sons will know how to treat their wives and children, be great spiritual leaders and heads of their households, if we show them by example. Our daughter will know what to look for in a husband when she sees Daddy with Mommy.
(Much more to write, the baby just woke up...to be continued...)
One Good Thing My Husband Did Yesterday: Calmly helped our exhausted son make his bed.
Sure, we don't have the same hobbies. We have even tried forcing ourselves into liking a hobby or two of the other's thinking we could learn to like it therefore, giving us more in common. The only thing we ended up with was commonly thinking, yet again, "Why did we even get married?" The answer is simple. We compliment each other, God knew our unity would create something beautiful. More than our 3 (almost 4!) beautiful children.
It eventually came down to the love we had for each other, we wanted to share with our children. Our common ground. Instead of forcing separate hobbies on each other, God has cultivated new hobbies into our hearts.
Over the past few months, we have learned we love to pray together in the mornings. We have decided to wake up much earlier in the mornings to have time together in prayer and studying God's word. What better way to start our days?
Ephesians 6:7 "...with goodwill doing service, as to the Lord, and not to men." (NKJV) Originally, I found this verse a while back, wrote it on an index card and gave it to my husband. A helpful reminder to work diligently as his paying job. Moaning and grumbling at his employer was not the answer. This verse has been beautifully orchestrated into our lives. We have learned our work is 24/7. Not just the place where he receives his paycheck. I too, was reminded my work at home, both housework as well as with the children held the same requirement of the Lord. Once I realized and implemented, both mine and my husband's hearts felt lighter and softened.
Matthew 11:30 "For my yolk is easy and my burden is light." (NKJV)
Both my husband and I knew, from the moment our first son was born, we wanted him to grow in God's love. We simply didn't know how we would help that along. Years have passed, two more children added to the mix and one on the way, we are finally seeing the obvious.
Our sons will know how to treat their wives and children, be great spiritual leaders and heads of their households, if we show them by example. Our daughter will know what to look for in a husband when she sees Daddy with Mommy.
(Much more to write, the baby just woke up...to be continued...)
One Good Thing My Husband Did Yesterday: Calmly helped our exhausted son make his bed.
Monday, February 1, 2010
God is on the Move
It has been a long time since I last posted. Many many changes have been and are being made in the household. God is moving in here and it's amazing!
I have so many new books in my "library" and it's overwhelming on where to start!
Though since the beginning of this blogject, I have made some major changes, God has still shown me I have much work left. Equally exhausting and exciting.
My husband was on his first full vacation in years this past week. It was a glorious time with our family. We used our time together to pray, read God's Word and implement new changes into the household.
One Wednesday, I got the amazing priveledge to attend a different MOPS than I normally attend. A friend of mine from church was speaking about a book, "Praying the Scriptures for your Children"--praying God's will for their life. (or something like that...maybe I shouldn't have used quotes.) I will double check later. Time is not on my side this morning.
I got to sit one morning and choose scriptures I felt were perfect for our children, even our coming addition! I have posted them on our refridgerator and we use them daily. It is still a new idea, and we are still working at where to place it exactly in our daily routine.
Also, we have added a daily family devotional. Though I love to sit and use my time during the day with our children, we are also adding an entire family time in the evening when Daddy comes home. It's a beautiful way to show our children their Dad and I live our lives for the Lord, and to show them how they can too. We read a short story, say a prayer, and do a craft. So far, the kids LOVE it. We also understand, each night will not prove to be so easy with activities going on in the family. We must remember to pray with them every evening, even if we are unable to complete the devotional. We desire to cultivate a closeness with the children and with us, yet maintain our status of parents. As a former younger myself, I did not have a relationship with my Mom where I could turn to her with any problems. I always got in trouble and yelled at when I needed something. We want our children to feel open with us, and still honor us as their parents...ultimately honoring God in the process. We are excited at what God is doing in our lives.
We both have a wonderful idea of the BIG PICTURE, and myself especially, need to realize it will all come together one step at a time. God will remain faithful always...it's US who needn't stray.
God has also shown me, many times unwillingly on my part initially, different ways to respect my husband. I need to encourage him to be the spiritual leader of our household. Leading has always been a strength (and a weakness) of mine. I pray for him, and remain quiet when I would normally say something...generally something nagging, demeaning, angry, or directing him in the wrong direction. God is showing me to use discretion. God will lead my husband where He wants him to be. My husband will know I will always remain encouraging. I'm finding more of what my husband needs to succeed as the head of our family. It's beautiful!! The road since the beginning, has been long. Most certainly my expectations of the journey have changed. I look at myself as more of the unsung hero in the family. Glue binding us together...Godly glue. I know I wouldn't be anything without Him.
I will remain faithful not only to God who requires it of me, but to my husband who needs me. God is revealing my husband needs me in ways I was not aware. Supportive, encouraging, prayerful.
One Good Thing My Husband Did Yesterday: He let me relax on the couch before he went out with a friend of his.
I have so many new books in my "library" and it's overwhelming on where to start!
Though since the beginning of this blogject, I have made some major changes, God has still shown me I have much work left. Equally exhausting and exciting.
My husband was on his first full vacation in years this past week. It was a glorious time with our family. We used our time together to pray, read God's Word and implement new changes into the household.
One Wednesday, I got the amazing priveledge to attend a different MOPS than I normally attend. A friend of mine from church was speaking about a book, "Praying the Scriptures for your Children"--praying God's will for their life. (or something like that...maybe I shouldn't have used quotes.) I will double check later. Time is not on my side this morning.
I got to sit one morning and choose scriptures I felt were perfect for our children, even our coming addition! I have posted them on our refridgerator and we use them daily. It is still a new idea, and we are still working at where to place it exactly in our daily routine.
Also, we have added a daily family devotional. Though I love to sit and use my time during the day with our children, we are also adding an entire family time in the evening when Daddy comes home. It's a beautiful way to show our children their Dad and I live our lives for the Lord, and to show them how they can too. We read a short story, say a prayer, and do a craft. So far, the kids LOVE it. We also understand, each night will not prove to be so easy with activities going on in the family. We must remember to pray with them every evening, even if we are unable to complete the devotional. We desire to cultivate a closeness with the children and with us, yet maintain our status of parents. As a former younger myself, I did not have a relationship with my Mom where I could turn to her with any problems. I always got in trouble and yelled at when I needed something. We want our children to feel open with us, and still honor us as their parents...ultimately honoring God in the process. We are excited at what God is doing in our lives.
We both have a wonderful idea of the BIG PICTURE, and myself especially, need to realize it will all come together one step at a time. God will remain faithful always...it's US who needn't stray.
God has also shown me, many times unwillingly on my part initially, different ways to respect my husband. I need to encourage him to be the spiritual leader of our household. Leading has always been a strength (and a weakness) of mine. I pray for him, and remain quiet when I would normally say something...generally something nagging, demeaning, angry, or directing him in the wrong direction. God is showing me to use discretion. God will lead my husband where He wants him to be. My husband will know I will always remain encouraging. I'm finding more of what my husband needs to succeed as the head of our family. It's beautiful!! The road since the beginning, has been long. Most certainly my expectations of the journey have changed. I look at myself as more of the unsung hero in the family. Glue binding us together...Godly glue. I know I wouldn't be anything without Him.
I will remain faithful not only to God who requires it of me, but to my husband who needs me. God is revealing my husband needs me in ways I was not aware. Supportive, encouraging, prayerful.
One Good Thing My Husband Did Yesterday: He let me relax on the couch before he went out with a friend of his.
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