Up until a few months ago, my husband and I would get caught up believing we had very little in common. Asking why we were even married in the first place. We blamed it on the beer. Life was always more fun with beer. We didn't have a clear head, we thought life would continue to be fun with money flowing in all the time. Boy, we were ever wrong!
Sure, we don't have the same hobbies. We have even tried forcing ourselves into liking a hobby or two of the other's thinking we could learn to like it therefore, giving us more in common. The only thing we ended up with was commonly thinking, yet again, "Why did we even get married?" The answer is simple. We compliment each other, God knew our unity would create something beautiful. More than our 3 (almost 4!) beautiful children.
It eventually came down to the love we had for each other, we wanted to share with our children. Our common ground. Instead of forcing separate hobbies on each other, God has cultivated new hobbies into our hearts.
Over the past few months, we have learned we love to pray together in the mornings. We have decided to wake up much earlier in the mornings to have time together in prayer and studying God's word. What better way to start our days?
Ephesians 6:7 "...with goodwill doing service, as to the Lord, and not to men." (NKJV) Originally, I found this verse a while back, wrote it on an index card and gave it to my husband. A helpful reminder to work diligently as his paying job. Moaning and grumbling at his employer was not the answer. This verse has been beautifully orchestrated into our lives. We have learned our work is 24/7. Not just the place where he receives his paycheck. I too, was reminded my work at home, both housework as well as with the children held the same requirement of the Lord. Once I realized and implemented, both mine and my husband's hearts felt lighter and softened.
Matthew 11:30 "For my yolk is easy and my burden is light." (NKJV)
Both my husband and I knew, from the moment our first son was born, we wanted him to grow in God's love. We simply didn't know how we would help that along. Years have passed, two more children added to the mix and one on the way, we are finally seeing the obvious.
Our sons will know how to treat their wives and children, be great spiritual leaders and heads of their households, if we show them by example. Our daughter will know what to look for in a husband when she sees Daddy with Mommy.
(Much more to write, the baby just woke up...to be continued...)
One Good Thing My Husband Did Yesterday: Calmly helped our exhausted son make his bed.
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
Monday, February 1, 2010
God is on the Move
It has been a long time since I last posted. Many many changes have been and are being made in the household. God is moving in here and it's amazing!
I have so many new books in my "library" and it's overwhelming on where to start!
Though since the beginning of this blogject, I have made some major changes, God has still shown me I have much work left. Equally exhausting and exciting.
My husband was on his first full vacation in years this past week. It was a glorious time with our family. We used our time together to pray, read God's Word and implement new changes into the household.
One Wednesday, I got the amazing priveledge to attend a different MOPS than I normally attend. A friend of mine from church was speaking about a book, "Praying the Scriptures for your Children"--praying God's will for their life. (or something like that...maybe I shouldn't have used quotes.) I will double check later. Time is not on my side this morning.
I got to sit one morning and choose scriptures I felt were perfect for our children, even our coming addition! I have posted them on our refridgerator and we use them daily. It is still a new idea, and we are still working at where to place it exactly in our daily routine.
Also, we have added a daily family devotional. Though I love to sit and use my time during the day with our children, we are also adding an entire family time in the evening when Daddy comes home. It's a beautiful way to show our children their Dad and I live our lives for the Lord, and to show them how they can too. We read a short story, say a prayer, and do a craft. So far, the kids LOVE it. We also understand, each night will not prove to be so easy with activities going on in the family. We must remember to pray with them every evening, even if we are unable to complete the devotional. We desire to cultivate a closeness with the children and with us, yet maintain our status of parents. As a former younger myself, I did not have a relationship with my Mom where I could turn to her with any problems. I always got in trouble and yelled at when I needed something. We want our children to feel open with us, and still honor us as their parents...ultimately honoring God in the process. We are excited at what God is doing in our lives.
We both have a wonderful idea of the BIG PICTURE, and myself especially, need to realize it will all come together one step at a time. God will remain faithful always...it's US who needn't stray.
God has also shown me, many times unwillingly on my part initially, different ways to respect my husband. I need to encourage him to be the spiritual leader of our household. Leading has always been a strength (and a weakness) of mine. I pray for him, and remain quiet when I would normally say something...generally something nagging, demeaning, angry, or directing him in the wrong direction. God is showing me to use discretion. God will lead my husband where He wants him to be. My husband will know I will always remain encouraging. I'm finding more of what my husband needs to succeed as the head of our family. It's beautiful!! The road since the beginning, has been long. Most certainly my expectations of the journey have changed. I look at myself as more of the unsung hero in the family. Glue binding us together...Godly glue. I know I wouldn't be anything without Him.
I will remain faithful not only to God who requires it of me, but to my husband who needs me. God is revealing my husband needs me in ways I was not aware. Supportive, encouraging, prayerful.
One Good Thing My Husband Did Yesterday: He let me relax on the couch before he went out with a friend of his.
I have so many new books in my "library" and it's overwhelming on where to start!
Though since the beginning of this blogject, I have made some major changes, God has still shown me I have much work left. Equally exhausting and exciting.
My husband was on his first full vacation in years this past week. It was a glorious time with our family. We used our time together to pray, read God's Word and implement new changes into the household.
One Wednesday, I got the amazing priveledge to attend a different MOPS than I normally attend. A friend of mine from church was speaking about a book, "Praying the Scriptures for your Children"--praying God's will for their life. (or something like that...maybe I shouldn't have used quotes.) I will double check later. Time is not on my side this morning.
I got to sit one morning and choose scriptures I felt were perfect for our children, even our coming addition! I have posted them on our refridgerator and we use them daily. It is still a new idea, and we are still working at where to place it exactly in our daily routine.
Also, we have added a daily family devotional. Though I love to sit and use my time during the day with our children, we are also adding an entire family time in the evening when Daddy comes home. It's a beautiful way to show our children their Dad and I live our lives for the Lord, and to show them how they can too. We read a short story, say a prayer, and do a craft. So far, the kids LOVE it. We also understand, each night will not prove to be so easy with activities going on in the family. We must remember to pray with them every evening, even if we are unable to complete the devotional. We desire to cultivate a closeness with the children and with us, yet maintain our status of parents. As a former younger myself, I did not have a relationship with my Mom where I could turn to her with any problems. I always got in trouble and yelled at when I needed something. We want our children to feel open with us, and still honor us as their parents...ultimately honoring God in the process. We are excited at what God is doing in our lives.
We both have a wonderful idea of the BIG PICTURE, and myself especially, need to realize it will all come together one step at a time. God will remain faithful always...it's US who needn't stray.
God has also shown me, many times unwillingly on my part initially, different ways to respect my husband. I need to encourage him to be the spiritual leader of our household. Leading has always been a strength (and a weakness) of mine. I pray for him, and remain quiet when I would normally say something...generally something nagging, demeaning, angry, or directing him in the wrong direction. God is showing me to use discretion. God will lead my husband where He wants him to be. My husband will know I will always remain encouraging. I'm finding more of what my husband needs to succeed as the head of our family. It's beautiful!! The road since the beginning, has been long. Most certainly my expectations of the journey have changed. I look at myself as more of the unsung hero in the family. Glue binding us together...Godly glue. I know I wouldn't be anything without Him.
I will remain faithful not only to God who requires it of me, but to my husband who needs me. God is revealing my husband needs me in ways I was not aware. Supportive, encouraging, prayerful.
One Good Thing My Husband Did Yesterday: He let me relax on the couch before he went out with a friend of his.
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