It Was a FINE Fight...

That didn't happen.  A trying day in our household yesterday.  Truthfully, I'm not sure if it was the busyness of the day mixed with the lack of sleep, or day number five of being together without a solid break.  He goes back to work this morning.  I had to work so incredibly hard yesterday I didn't speak for much of the evening.  I went under, "if you don't have anything nice to say..."mantra.  I prayed for effective communication between my husband and I.  I prayed the Lord quiet my tongue and dampen my thoughts.  As time went on, I didn't feel so ravenous. Desperately wanting to crawl into bed and just bid au dieu to the evening - I was thankful our Father answered my quiet, short prayers and we made it through. 

I realized something yesterday through all of this, and today I will devote my time to the Word and seek counsel from a friend.  I now need to understand what the Bible says about conflict.  I also need to remember this blogject isn't about dealing with no conflict in our marriage.  Working to find a proper balance.  Working to find the right way-- the Godly way to deal with conflict in our marriage.  We will have it.  We need to learn how to deal properly.  How to deal in a way, in the end, would make our Father proud. Though yesterday was certainly a learning experience.  Like being tossed in the water and told, "figure out how to swim."  Since I'm not sure about a proper level of conflict and how to deal with it, I worked hard to have none.  To have none, I had to keep my mouth shut.  I had pray for strength and wisdom and guidance of my words.  The Lord poured his answers upon me willingly, graciously.   My husband and I were able to discuss many of our stressful issues calmly.  I suppose it's better this way.  It has to be, God is revealing all of this to me, God will teach me how better to act in situations like yesterday.  Maybe I did the best possible thing, maybe I did the second best.  I know this:  I didn't choose the worst.  I'm faithful God will continue to reveal only the best for our marriage.
Hooray for us.

One good thing my husband did today:  He did not dig at me when he knew I was struggling last night.  He waited until I was able to come to him calmly.