Job: Every woman's hero

I know I know.  I didn't blog this weekend.  I slept a lot, and spent some great time with my family.  I was also able to make some nice breakthroughs with my husband about sex.  Apparently I was able to find a sentence that worked just for him to sum it all up for women.  Praise the Lord for guiding my words!
Oh things have been so trying here these past few days.  Not with our marriage directly.  With our lives.  Pre-blogject and pre 30-day husband encouragement, we most definitely would have been fighting.  To our surprise, there was none!  Granted, there were times when the volcanos inside wanted to explode.  We let the Lord calm them and He brought us through.  He is still working with us, we are remaining faithful together, ultimately aiding us to grow closer. 
I was reading Every man's battle this weekend.  I happened upon a verse from Job, a man who should be heralded as a hero among all women.  That's right, I said women.  Job 31:9 says just the verse which worked this wonderful, faithful man right into my heart:  "If my heart has been enticed by a woman, or if I have lurked at my neighbor's door, then may my wife grind another man's grain, and may other men sleep with her."  (NIV)  He gets it!  What I have been looking for since I began this blogject; a man who understands his own needs as well as his wife's.  I truly believed no man existed, and God showed me otherwise right in the very book I loathe.  God is magnificent.  Job was a blameless man as many of us know.  I suppose what I didn't realize, was how he regarded his wife in able to be such a man.  Oddly enough, my husband did not even notice this verse in the book.  Imagine that.  We discussed it over the weekend, and he laughed in my elation over this beautiful piece of scripture.  A piece which every man should keep with him always. 
Our next conversation was on our way home from church yesterday.  Sex.  To put it bluntly, after five years of marriage, my husband is still very awkward in the bedroom.  His mother might as well be standing there in the room with us.  My feelings of awkwardness stem from his.  A friend suggested we pray before we come together.  Yes, I know God created sex and even that makes me feel awkward.  I know it's the right thing to do and I'm sure a theory I will be willing to test in the coming days.   My husband knows I'm trying out the 72 hour cycle business.  He knows I'm willing to work for him.  He also admitted to me, he rarely thinks of how well I am satisfied in the bedroom.  Standing in our yard, I confessed to my husband what most women joke about regarding sex.  "Sure we enjoy it.  All eight seconds of it!"  Whether you fit into that category with your own spouse, or you don't, you know exactly what I mean.  Laughing, he express how relieved he was to hear it was a joke among women and not simply his woman.  I proceeded to add how women most certainly do not receive the same kind of pleasure as their husbands.  Admittedly, my husband added how he expected me to receive the exact same pleasure as he was receiving in such a short time period.  Not the case.  Not even close.  However, we were finally able to discuss this topic without fighting.  Without my husband wallowing, unwilling to move forward with me, because he was feeling worthless.  Praise Jesus the ball has started rolling in a great aspect of our lives!
Admittedly, I had forgotten all about the 30 day husband encouragement challenge I undertook a few days ago. Only for a day.  I was pleased to realize I didn't slip.  I will partake in day 3's suggestion today.  Continue to not say anything negative about or to my husband.  If he is not considerate of my needs, I will talk to him in a kind way expressing I cannot do things alone and I need his help.  When he does offer to help, let him do it his way and not complain.  If you know me at all, then you are aware I like it done my way.  Part of the reason, in fact, of why I'm doing this blogject.  My way wasn't working.  Encouraging my husband is God's way.  I am excited to be a part of this. 

One Good Thing My Husband Did Friday:  Let me go to bed very early
One Good Thing My Husband Did Saturday:  Prayed with me when I was losing my mind
One Good Thing My Husband Did Sunday:  Helped me get the boys ready for an impromptu trick-or-treat excursion without any fighting.