Switching Sides

I think in a marriage people have two sides:  a close side and a far side.  Unless we as married people use the same side together, the close side, distance will occur.  If one spouse is choosing close and the other is choosing far, far will happen.  If both spouses are choosing far, far will happen.  However, if both spouses are choosing close, close will happen.  So many times in arguments or disagreements we want to push the other away.  I have expressed a desire to be pulled close.  We cannot pull ourselves alone.  We need a tool of some sort, preferably the strong, loving arms of our spouse.  Though my husband is aware of what I have asked for, I have yet to receive it.  I need to stop concentrating on why he hasn't done what I want, and concentrate on what I can do with God to facilitate the process.  So many times we sit and blame the other person when we are ignoring ourselves.  Matthew 7:5 says, "You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your neighbor's eye."  (NRSV)  God is showing me I need to realize a few small steps does not make a long walk.  My few steps I have taken with the Lord on this particular walk has not made me reach my destination, though it has brought me closer.  A concept, I simply realized a moment ago.  A concept I'm sure which will take time to let sink in.  I will boldly endure this journey. 

One Good Thing My Husband Did:  Sat with me and tried talking.